Sex Tips for New Lovers

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I am in my first same sex relationship with a woman I am totally in love with. We're both bisexual. When things first started out, I was extremely shy and would only go very slow and not make much noise. Since then, I’ve relaxed, and now the more things we do, the wilder and louder I get, and she loves me like that.

The thing is, I feel I'm not pleasing her as much as she pleases me. I can bring her to orgasm, but only from performing oral or rubbing her. I love going down on her so much, but I'm worried it'll get boring after a while, since those are the only two that work on her, she hates penetration and getting her heated up by giving attention to her breasts does not work much. Is there anything else that I can try to please my woman? I have asked her, but she is shy about telling me what to do and doesn't want to tell me.
Newly in Love

Dear New Lovers:

First of all, the only way you're going to succeed at this is if you two have good communication. Yes, talking about sex is hard. It's not something we're taught how to do. Actually, as women, we've been conditioned not to talk about it. It's a hard one to break.

So how do you talk about sex when you don't even know where to start? A great place to start is get a copy of Felice Newman's The Whole Lesbian Sex Book. In it you'll find gobs of information about orgasm, sex toys, the human sexual response, anatomy and safe sex. If you're more the visual type, The Guide to Lesbian Sex by Jude Schell is chock full of beautiful photos of different sexual positions. You can your partner can look through this together and see what sparks your interest.